You know as well as I do, that we all can stumble from time to time. Things just don’t go right. Sometimes, these mishaps and setbacks are of our own making (Guilty as charged). At other times, life can just be unfair. Things happen to us that we don’t really have any control over.
Some examples of the above are we dive into a relationship that perhaps we should have waited or pondered over for a bit longer. In other situations, we may well make the wrong choices that seemed right at the time, that we later rue or regret deeply.
We may have a business ‘failure’ or a major slump in our performance in our sport or at work.
But the critical thing to remember is if we have done something right before, or if we can learn from our mistakes, we can get it right the next time.
These setbacks, no matter how often or how big, do not doom us to a life of average or of unfulfilled dreams.
I remember once a chap who lost his painting and decorating business. I asked him if he was going to start again. He told me emphatically, “Not in a million years.” His much younger son, who had previously worked for his Dad in the business, kept the company name and the one employee left (They used to have about 15 staff) and decided to run with it.
He learned from the mistakes of his Father. Two years later the business was booming. Three years later and he had over 30 staff and was moving into a huge house. Needless to say, he was doing very, very well.
The irony is, his Dad was now working for him. Deep down he resented that. I could see it in his eyes and hear it in the tone of his voice when I talked to him about the business. I was unfortunately proved right not long after, when he left the business to go work for somebody else for less pay!
And that was a tragedy. He could have done it himself. I have met many other people who only try once and when it doesn’t work out, they give up.
I knew another guy who was a self-made millionaire. He became an alcoholic and lost everything. He was fortunate that his wife stood by him (That’s another blog post maybe). She never stopped believing in him, even when they were back living in squalor (I also understand that circumstances don’t always make this possible).
Sometimes we have to unlearn and relearn
With her help he beat his alcoholism and tried again. He became a millionaire again. I always remember him telling me that it wasn’t anything about the money, you know, about being a millionaire I mean. It was the trying again.
He had experienced many setbacks on both journeys to becoming a millionaire. Life is like that. But he emphasised to me that if you have done something right once, you can do it right again. And if you do something wrong, you can learn how to do it right.
He is so right.
I have found that people who are successful and lose it all have simply unlearned and relearned something else.
Therefore to reclaim past success or results it is ‘simply’ a matter of unlearning and relearning again; applying the same strategies that worked for you before.
It can take time and effort (And don’t let anyone try and convince you otherwise) of course but it is well worth the effort.
If you have succeeded and have slumped; or once achieved great results that now elude you, then the first thing you can do is pat yourself on the back. Why? because you tried, you gave it a shot.
And that’s the biggest tragedy of them all: never giving your greatness a chance to be unleashed and shine.