‘Oh those frustrating obstacles’, you might well be thinking if one has recently befallen you. ‘Why do I have to suffer them? Why can’t it all be plain sailing to getting what I want?’, could be some of your other thoughts running amok inside your head.
Well, I admit, they can be irksome at times. But would we really enjoy our success if it was all so easy to achieve? Probably not. Certainly not as much. This doesn’t mean that life (Or your career or business) needs to be one long, huge struggle either.
But if obstacles are getting you down then perhaps you can view them in another light?
“Obstacles are those frightful things we see when we take our eye off our goals” said the great Henry Ford.
So that is the first thing you can do if you are feeling low because a brick wall has suddenly appeared on your road to your chosen destination. Go back and review your written goals right now.
Also, you can try reminding yourself exactly why you want what you want. A strong why gets you over almost any how.
And there is another way of looking at those pesky obstacles that get in your way.
They are there for good reason. Yes, I said a good reason. They aren’t there to stop you from getting what you want. They are simply there to test how much you want what you say you want. They are purposely there to prevent all those other folk from getting it.
Think about it for a moment.
Lots of people want to;
- Become a successful entrepreneur
- Become an actor or actress
- An artist
- A musician or singer
- An author
- A successful life or business coach
- (Whatever you want to achieve)
But they don’t all make it. Why? Because they give up. They don’t want it badly enough. The obstacle is simply asking them “How much do you want this my friend? Show me. Show me you want it enough by climbing over me.” And that’s great news for you. It reduces the amount of competition in your field, for one. It leaves more room for you to be successful. Those ‘frustrating’ obstacles eliminate all the other people who are only wishing. Or who think their goal should be a free ride.
I had a huge obstacle when I submitted my book to a publisher. They said they loved the work but it needed to be completely re-written because the majority of sentences were far too long and contained far too many semi-colons (Yes; one of these;). Of course at first, I thought the cheeky so and so’s, how dare they say that? What do they know? I’ve put so much sweat into this work of art…
Now I could have walked away from that wall. Instead, after my ego recovered, and I realised they did know what they were talking about, I re-wrote it. I wanted badly to be a published author. It was part of my major goals. And underlining that goal was a powerful why.
And that helped me stay up until 2am rewriting it whilst I was a CEO of a major business, that required much of my time.
The following edits I had to do, were a mere afternoon stroll in the park in comparison.
I will also say this. The bigger the obstacle, the bigger the reward on the other side that is waiting for you. The only way you will get over that wall and discover what awaits you is by being doggedly determined about it. Working through it. Finding a way. And there is always a way. Always.
So if you have been giving up too easily, it is a sure sign that you don’t (Or didn’t) want it badly enough. Maybe, and I emphasise maybe, you were pursuing the wrong goal? Or certainly not trying to achieve something that is congruent with who you are, what you value or what you love to do. Perhaps you can think on this if you have previously displayed a tendency to give up too easily and jump to the next goal?
So next time you get an obstacle land in front of you take delight in it. Once you overcome the major ones, which tend to appear just as you are about to get a major breakthrough, and most definitely at the start of any new goal (Personal opinion and experience) they never appear as large or as insurmountable ever again.
If you are feeling bogged down by these obstacles try applying the strategies I have written here. They may help you take delight in them; they will certainly eradicate any stress or frustration. A different frame of mind can also help your creativity in finding solutions.
You may need to change your strategy to get to your desired outcome, but if your goal is worthy and serves others, and is what you truly love to do, never, never, never give up on that goal. Ever. Beyond that obstacle lies your success and the personal fulfillment from being able to exclaim loudly from the rooftops, “I did it!!”
Remember, anything really is possible…