The term “Haters” has seemed to have crept into the new dictionary of modern day living. Haters are real people with real venom in their hearts. Some of them have the poison of a king cobra.
With the ability to be able to hide behind their Mac or Android and type whatever they wish, some of what they say can be just plain outright lies and pure fabrications. It can be extremely painful to those who are on the receiving end of such viciousness.
Recently, a referee’s wife received death threats and despicable comments online just because he had given a decision in a football game that the opposing fans didn’t like. There have been many other cases of such horrid and cowardly behaviour.
Personally, I am going through such abuse myself right now. One side of a recent event has been posted online about me. The facts have been grossly distorted and I have been made out to be some kind of monster.
I have even been forced to close down my social media channels.
I have experienced this before when my book was published. When I suddenly appeared to be more successful some so-called friends turned into haters.
This also happened to a good friend of mine when, funnily enough, his book was published.
Haters are not worth your thinking time or energy.
Now I could fight back and produce my own evidence to these lies as I have such proof. I could follow all the posts around the web and write my side of the story under each one.
But is that the wisest thing to do? No it isn’t. Not in my opinion.
The people who really know me, who really care for me, have stood by me. They know that the lies are just that: lies. They know I am not the person that the lies are trying to portray me to be.
There are others mind you, who want it to be true and have already sided with the Troll who is spreading these disgusting, despicable rumours.
Haters are gonna hate
For people who don’t know me, I cannot control what they want to think.
I let them form their own opinions. I trust that common sense will prevail and they will realise and say to themselves, “Hey, this is only one side of the story here” (Some already have and have emailed me support, thank you)
Haters are here to stay. Well, for the foreseeable future they are here to stay. They have always been around, nothing new has changed there. It is just that today it spreads faster and to more people.
The Haters Can Never Win
So be prepared if you are going to go onto great things. Haters will come out of the woodwork. Sometimes people you thought were friends will turn. There is nothing you can do about it.
Let them be. Don’t waste your thinking time or energy on them. And certainly don’t try and change what you do or who you are. Or let them prevent you from reaching your goals and dreams and being who you really want to be.
When you really start living your life and showing outwards signs of happiness, fulfilment and success…they will appear. Maybe not on such a vicious scale, but be mentally prepared for them.
Don’t take what they say personally. All that matters is what you think. And those who know the real you, will stand by you and support you.
For me, I have given this person a silent blessing. I have prayed for them. And now, I have forgotten them. After this blog is finished, I doubt they will ever really enter my mind again.
I shall just press forward. Stronger and wiser for the experience.