When life is running smoothly and everything just seems to gel and fall nicely into place, it is fairly easy to be upbeat and positive.
But how do you fare when things are not going so well? You know, when you drive into one of life’s potholes and get derailed? Are you as easily optimistic? Or does that inner-demon inside your head take over and tell you all is lost and that things will never be the same again?
Although you must always remain positive and optimistic, even when you are on top of the world, I think adversity shows our true courage. It also tests how strong our beliefs are too!
Good Times and Bad
As I have said, when things are rosy we must still be positive and this is for two reasons:
- What got you to where you are today is not enough to keep you there or move you further on your journey. Complacency is the biggest enemy of success and that includes complacency in our thinking.
- Conditioning. Our minds are constantly being bombarded with negativity from all angles; the news, social media, friends, relatives and work colleagues. This negativity can sometimes wear us down without us realizing it.
This is why we must always look after our mental well being. This is especially true for those of us who have had a negative upbringing and are now doing well. Those old beliefs and self-destructive thinking patterns can still be there under the surface, ready to raise their ugly heads in an instant.
Positive reinforcement is a must, a constant, to keep these old-formed beliefs at bay.
When we fall and suffer setbacks, like the loss of a job, a business or a relationship, it can be hard to look on the brightside and to remain optimistic.
We can lose self-confidence, belief in our abilities and our inner-critic and doubter can dominate our thinking patterns. Yet this is the time that we must be as optimistic as we possibly can. This doesn’t mean we are burying our head in the sand over what has happened or that there is nothing wrong. But this is the time we should pay extra effort to ensure that we tell ourselves that happier or more successful times are indeed ahead of us.
We must truly believe and grab hold of the thought that everything will work out okay – and sooner rather than later.
When going through tough times this is a test of our belief, a test of our character and resolve.
So both situations have their challenges when it comes to remaining optimistic and positive. The answer is obviously to be watchful of what is going on in our heads whether we find ourselves in great or tricky, despondent times.
Looking after our minds, our thinking and our attitudes is of paramount importance. I believe it is something we should do everyday.
Optimism can be cultivated and positivity strengthened if we devote time to both of these necessary and important character traits. If we do this, it soon becomes a worthwhile daily habit that pays untold dividends for us.
Look after your mind and you will be looking after your life.