It’s Never Too Late…Is It? (Don’t hide behind your age as an excuse for not dreaming)
I firmly believe that everyone has talent in some form or another. That means you do too. There is something only you can do in your own special, unique and extraordinary way. I also stoutly believe that every person has a dream inside of them. Somewhere, smouldering beneath possible past setbacks, fear and procrastination (Which is a smoke screen for fear) everyone has something they would love to do.
Of course, for people who are older in years, it may be deeper beneath the surface-especially if they attempted to achieve that dream some 20 or 30 years earlier, and through ‘failure’, they were apprehensive to ever give it another shot-but I believe that dream lives on inside, it is still there. Somewhere.
Maybe that’s you. Maybe you once had a dream of achieving something big? Perhaps you carried a childhood dream into your 20’s, but through various circumstances it never quite worked out. So you ended up helping somebody else or a big company, achieve their dreams instead. This would obviously have been in the form of your job. Slogging away for 40+ hours a week. Over time that dream you had faded into an obscure part of your mind; locked away in a small room, marked with a dark painted sign of Do Not Disturb engraved on the door.
I know of a man who started his own business some years ago. It was going extremely well and he had around 20 employees by year 3. Then a couple of poor decisions during a downturn and his business got into difficulties and he had to lay off his staff and remain a one man band.
This loss and the way he reacted to it caused him not to try again. Not long after this incident, a former employee approached the business owner and asked if he could take on the business and employ the owner. Filled with fear of history repeating itself, he agreed.
7 years later the business was providing the new owner with a huge income, a beautiful house and all the trappings of success. Now infected with resentment and envy, the previous owner left his job as an employee of the company he founded and disappeared. Before he left the area I had asked him why he hadn’t given it another shot. Bravely, he openly admitted that he was too scared to try again and then self-justified by saying he was happy to be a stress-free employee! His eyes, and previous behaviour, told me otherwise.
I am 52 and I have recently changed career if you like. I learnt a whole new set of skills in my mid-40’s. Through adversity I finally discovered my true passion-even though it had been something I was heavily interested in and doing part time in various ways, for years.
I have given up a great salary and have decided to go it alone; to pursue my passion and give it a shot. I have to. Yes it was scary when I made the decision. And for an hour or so, very scary. But for me, the fear of going to my grave without giving it a try far outweighs any fear of “failing” and NOT giving it a go.
So what about you? Did you once dream of being someone different than who you are now? Did you have goals of achieving more, doing more and living a more successful, happier and fulfilled life? What happened? Maybe you can relate to the experiences I gave above?
But the reason why is really irrelevant. In fact, you don’t even have to think about a why it has happened at all.
If you knew you couldn’t fail, if you knew success was guaranteed, what would you try and achieve? What would you be doing with your life?
You can keep thinking about why you didn’t do something earlier in life and analyse and justify those reasons to your hearts content-it really isn’t going to change anything because the past is gone.
But you can think and focus about what you can do now to get what you want in the next year or so.
It really isn’t too late to give it a go. A lot of people achieve their best successes in their 40’s, 50’s and beyond. What is stopping you?
Maybe what I have written below can help if this blog relates to you in any way? It might not be feasible for you to achieve the same dream you had 20 or 30 years ago. For example you may have wanted to become a top athlete (But even with this example there are senior clubs around you could join) ?
- What were your dreams and goals when you were growing up? (Not your parents dreams or expectations for you, but your own) Are they still feasible and attainable?
If not then ask yourself these…
- What are you interested in now?
- What are you passionate about?
- What get’s you excited, still?
- What experiences have you gained that you could perhaps now turn into a business in the form of consulting to others or by becoming an infopreneur and sharing your knowledge and wisdom to enrich other lives?
- What hobbies do you have? Could any of these be transformed into a money making model? (Lots have)
- What will you despise most when your time is ‘up’? The fact that you didn’t even try to achieve? Or that you might not reach the goal you set? (I will tell you now, 100%, it will be the former you regret most)
- If you weren’t afraid, what would you try and achieve?
- What will happen if you don’t do anything?
- What won’t happen if you don’t do anything?
If you are hiding behind your age as to why you shouldn’t be going for it, and using it as an excuse, then wake up. I know plenty of ‘seniors’ who have started new dreams and goals. And I am sure you do too.
It really is never too late to give your past dreams a go or think up some new ones and go for those instead. Doing what you love to do and fulfilling your purpose by serving others will bring you the greatest rewards.
Why not give them a shot?