Last Saturday I was in my element, my zone, my working utopia. When I am in that beautiful place, time flows by with no regrets.
What was I doing? Conducting a seminar to inspire others to achieve their goals, dreams and aspirations. I succeeded too. I gathered some wonderful comments from the attendee’s.
On this particular seminar, I was going through the belief that they should perhaps have at least one goal that would really stretch them and the positive benefits for doing so. I wanted them to think BIG and dare to dream. To throw all and any sense of realism to the wind.
I also suggested that if they have one of those popular-with-other-guru’s ‘Dream Boards’ or ‘Vision Boards’ already hanging up in their living space, to go home and tear it down immediately.
Do Not Tell Others What Your Goals Are or What You Are Going to Achieve
I related the story of a woman I coached who was enthusiastically told to go home and prepare her dream board of everything she wanted and hang it proudly in her living room. She did so the following day and felt highly motivated. Nothing would stop her in pursuit of her dreams she thought. She was excited and had every right to be.
Later that evening her husband came home, who hadn’t been on the seminar, with some friends. They all saw her Vision Board. Then they questioned her, which soon turned into mocking.
“How on earth are you going to achieve that car?” they enquired, “You only earn x amount!” And, “How will you ever earn 200k per year? You don’t even have any qualifications?” “You get fit? You don’t like walking!” “How are you going to start your own business?” they sniggered.
Within a few minutes, her unstoppable attitude was waning badly. She chose to believe their words. Her mind filled with doubt about being able to achieve all that was on her Vision Board. She took it down the next day and threw it away – and her dreams went with it for many years.
The majority of people don’t want you to achieve. They have no goals, dreams or aspirations. And they will be quick to tell you, you are living a fantasy.
You see most people do not dream big. Some don’t even dream at all. Sharing your goals with the majority of people can cause you to doubt your own abilities to get what you want.
Then I went on to explain that even those friends or family who smile and say, “Hey that’s great, I like your Dream Board. Hope you achieve all that!” (The phrase, Hope you achieve all that is actually negative as the word ‘hope’ can imply you have very little chance) won’t, in most cases, believe that you can. In some cases they won’t want you to either.
You see, even if you don’t consciously detect the doubt in their voice, your unconscious mind will. Or your unconscious mind will see a very subtle facial giveaway. And it is your unconscious mind you are wanting to convince that you can get what you want.
Get it Clear in Your Mind: The Majority of People Don’t Want You to Achieve
And let me tell you this: The vast majority of people you talk to will not want what you want. They won’t be dreaming big. They won’t be planning how to do it. They won’t be feeling unstoppable. They won’t be determined to do whatever it takes to get it. They won’t be optimistic. They won’t own a compelling beautiful, bright picture or video in their mind of their future. And, sadly, they won’t want you to achieve any of your dreams either.
Your success will be a constant reminder of their failures
I do believe in having pictures of what you want. But I think they should be kept in a secure folder on your laptop or android and kept for your eyes only. If you want to do it the older way, you can get a scrapbook and paste what you want in there and keep it under your bed. Either is okay.
Most dream boards are not specific enough to actually work and they can end up doing more harm than good.
So in my opinion, and I have been studying this for over a quarter of a century, I do not recommend having dream boards adorning walls. Even if they are in your bedroom they become prized artefacts which you will want to show off.
And Another Important Reason…
The other reason of course is because you are seeing it everyday the mind can sort of become numb to the dream board and everything on it. Your feelings, when you see it on a daily basis many times, will not be present. And feelings when visualising are important. So is sacrificing or setting aside time to visualise critical too.
So if you have one, and especially if others see it when they come to your home or office, tear it down immediately.
Go forward with a quiet determination, belief and inner knowing that if you don’t share what you want with the crowd, you are more likely to get it. And faster.
(Watch out for my online course in a few weeks time which will be covering why visualising doesn’t work for the majority of people and how you can guarantee that it does for you)