7 years ago almost to the day my brother passed away, his life cut tragically short. Yesterday would have been his birthday. He would have been 58. It only seems like yesterday that he was here. And only like a few days ago that we were small kids…him teasing me with gruesome stories of witches that would come and carry me off in the dark of night.
Back then, sometimes I wish they had. But that’s another blog entirely.
So naturally at this time of year I think about him. I miss him. I no longer get upset too much when I reminisce about the fun times we shared; I am able to think of all the wonderful times we had together with joy, happiness and love.
It was difficult a couple of months ago when I was going through a tough time. I needed him. I needed him to listen and give me advice and make me see the funny side of it all, and he wasn’t there. That was tough.
But over this last couple of days it got me thinking about the connection we had. I could talk to my brother about anything. And I do mean anything. We had a connection, an affinity if you like, that was unbreakable and unmeasurable.
We could spend time apart and yet through the ether we instinctively knew how the other one was. When we finally met up, it was like the old cliche of never being apart. And our broad smiles, when we met, conveyed our love for each other, even though the 3 words were never passed our lips in mutual conversation.
I think we all have them with some people we meet in our lives. When they have gone, something just doesn’t feel right…something inside is missing, but we can’t put our finger on what it is. It’s like watching Laurel without Hardy (We both loved them). Or seeing Astaire dance in an old musical without Rodgers.
We may well make connections with other people, but they aren’t quite the same. Well, not in my opinion. Even within our circle of siblings we may not have it. Of course we love them as much as the other, but that connection we experience may not be there.
So if you have anyone in your life who you have that connection with, treasure them with all your heart, mind and soul. And not only that, tell them how much they mean to you. Even though they may just ‘know’ how you feel it is always better to communicate what meaning they have in your life.
You’ll never regret it.
Oh and by the way, ‘Man-Flu’ is real. I’m just recovering from it.