4 Questions I Get Asked Because I Work in the Self-Improvement World
Being in the self-improvement industry as a performance coach, I quite often get asked lots of questions. Questions about how I feel, think, react, and respond to different things that happen in life. I suppose people want to know if I am human or not or maybe they want to relate to me or know whether or not they are unique in thinking and feeling like they do.
I like receiving these emails and without wanting to sound patronising, I find it kind of humbling that other people want to know how I think!
Well, here are 4 common questions that I get asked. I hope that you find my answers insightful…and maybe you might see my dry humour too.
1) Do you ever get bored?
2) Do bad things ever happen to you?
3) Do you ever get angry?
Well, I am susceptible to getting a little peeved with some car drivers…but on the whole, no I don’t. I can’t remember the last time I ‘lost my temper’.
One of the biggest things I have found that causes people to get angry is other people! I try to be philosophical as often as I can with others. If somebody is rude to me I try and ask myself, “What is going on in their world right now?” They may have a had an argument with a loved one that morning, crashed the car, lost their purse or wallet or worse still, they maybe suffering from a divorce or the loss of a loved one. By doing this it gives me a fresh perspective. There could be a million and one things happening in their life right now.
By not reacting negatively and instead responding with a smile or some kind words it could restore their faith in life, who knows?
4) You always seem positive and happy, do you ever get in a 'bad mood'?
Oh, I used to be one of the world’s worst moodiest people, trust me. I would be in a bad mood from the moment I got up to at least lunchtime virtually every day. Everything between about 8am and 1pm got on my nerves. And I do mean everything.
If, and this is rare, if I do struggle with changing my mood immediately, I change my physiology by stretching the stress out of my body that has accumulated overnight. And as a further booster, I put on some great dance music that gets me moving around the house.
Hand on my heart I can honestly say that I have controlled most of my moodiness-it never lasts more than a few minutes. For me, considering how much my bleak moods affected me (and those around me), this is actually one of my greatest, personal achievements.
Life is far too wonderful to be moaning, groaning and complaining.
Oh, did I tell you I like dry humor? I try and apply that to lots of situations too.